A few years back my mom got the phone call from my grandma (her mom) that she was leaving South Carolina and moving here. She needed people who would be in her life to help her with all her needs. My grandma was 78 and couldn’t take care of her home anymore, go to doctor’s appointments or even the grocery store. She essentially needed someone to help her with everything.
She was certain she would move here to a nursing home but no way were we accepting that. We found an income based apartment complex in our area that housed residents 62 years of age or older where she would still be independent. It was perfect as the grocery store was ¼ mile down the road and everything else was within distance.
Having my grandma relocate and providing elderly care to her proved to be a challenge. My mom and I became full-time caregivers for my grandma, taking her to appointments, the store, out for walks, helping with showers, cooking, cleaning her apartment, managing her finances and so much more. It was exhausting. Everything in my life was put on hold to help my grandma, which I didn’t mind, but like I said it was exhausting and affecting my family. I read this article Caregiver lives rerouted yet enriched by aging parents and immediately thought about my mom caring for her mom. My mom’s health isn’t the best, so watching her health get worse while she cared for her mom was draining which is why I ultimately stepped in. But even with my mom’s health issues I knew she did this all out of love, for the one who raised her and loved her wholeheartedly.
We were taking care of our own families plus my grandma who lived across town. I never had time for my own family, or friends but think about all the assistance I gave her and how wonderful it made me feel as a person. I wasn’t close to my grandma before she moved here as she was so far away, only remembering bits and pieces of her from my childhood. Caregiving for her brought us close, learning things about each other, and best of all my grandma was getting to see her two great grandchildren she never knew before her time here.
Losing her unexpectedly in February during a medical procedure was gut-wrenching especially when I was just getting to know her. I drive passed her apartment at least 3x per week, wanting to pull in the driveway to go sip some coffee with her, or take her for her monthly pedicure, but it isn’t going to happen. I know as I sit here today that my grandma appreciated everything I did for her and I know I found it rewarding caring for someone I so deeply cared and loved so much.
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Have you ever cared for the elderly? Any tips to share? If I could share one it would be to have patience. Remember, they’ve lost their ability to do everything they once could do and now they can’t. They are frustrated someone has to care for their every move. Just be patient, caring and listen to whoever you are caring for.
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