Saying Goodbye to Our 14 Year Old Kitty

On September 13th we had to say goodbye to our elderly 14 year old son, our cat son. Devastating.

saying goodbye to elderly cat

The past month has been trying on me. ET (yes my cat’s name is ET) has been having some issues mainly he stopped eating and he was vomiting. I brought him to the vet where we found out he had hyperthyroidism. They put him on medications and all seemed okay, where he would begin eating a little again.

Not too long after he was hospitalized for five days as he was severely dehydrated. They gave him fluids, steroids and vitamins to try to bring him back to health. He came home the day after Labor Day he was eating, not like normal eating but he was eating without vomiting. I even said in this post he was doing well.

A week later the eating completely stopped again. He was just sleeping, so back to the vet’s we went. We were told his potassium levels were very low which is why he was feeling so yucky. We brought him home. The next day I was back in the vet’s bawling.

Saying Goodbye to Our elderly cat

I woke that morning, ET seemed normal, he was happy. I brought the kids to school and he deteriorated. He was weak, his head wouldn’t lift, his eyes had tons of discharge, he would get up and walk 2 feet and just lie down.

They called me into the room and in hysterics I said this to the vet:

“Just tell me if this is it. He is not responding to anything. He won’t eat or drink. He can’t even sleep today. Is he in pain.”

Our vet felt around while doing this ET was moaning in a light moan. He was so weak. He told us he was VERY uncomfortable. They took him back for an x-ray, brought him back and left the room to check the images.

About 10 minutes later he came back.

E’s chest cavity is filled with fluid. His liver has a very sandy texture (liver failure). We took some fluid to test its color etc. It isn’t good.  He has chylothorax, his liver is failing, his organs are failing. I asked them to drain the fluid. We can’t, he’s too weak. It has made its way to his abdomen, liver and pancreas. We also feel due to the fluid in his abdomen he has FIP (fatal and no treatment).

There is no easy way to tell you this Mrs. Haskins, we feel it is time you and your family make the decision to say goodbye to your beloved pet. We don’t feel he will live the weekend and if he does he won’t live much more after that. He’ll be in tons of pain. They hugged me forever, just trying to comfort me.

I couldn’t deal.

I was in hysterics, just shaking

What did he just tell me

I left

We spent the day with ET who got so poorly in just 4 hours of being home. We waited for the kids to get home to explain everything to them. My poor children.

Our poor family.

We had to make the right decision, we knew we had to say goodbye.  ET didn’t deserve to suffer, he didn’t deserve pain of any sort.

We said our goodbyes.

We headed back to the vet, held him, talked to him and let him know how sorry we were and how much joy he had brought us in 14 years. We held him the entire time, his final breath.

This was our first kitty together, just 3 months old when he came to our home.

I miss his numerous belly rubs, head scratching, climbing the cupboards when I use the can opener (he thought I was getting him tuna every time), him sleeping above my head on my pillow, his distinct meow, everything.

He was our first kid, who is dearly missed so much.

I’m not coping to well as I never had to make the decision to end my cat’s life but trying to. I’m creating a photo book and we wait for his ashes to come back with his ceramic paw print.

The kids asked me to have a funeral at home, is that weird? I feel since they want me to honor him I have to.

Those that follow me on any social media, thank you so much for your prayers and thoughts these last few weeks. You don’t know how much they mean to me. Losing my pet, one of my best buds and child has been very difficult.

I have peace knowing he didn’t suffer, he had a great life and was just amazing for a cat.

I miss you ET, you are so very loved.

saying goodbye to our elderly cat

The Rainbow Bridge Poem

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together….

~Author unknown~

About Nichol

Nichol Haskins is a WAHM of two children, a son who is 12 and a daughter who is 7. She enjoys sharing baby & kids online shopping deals so parents can save money. Fitness and health food addicted. Find me on Google+, Twitter @KiddiesCorner and Facebook


  1. Aww, I am so sorry :( I am in tears, what a beautiful kitty. I lost my first baby (got him when I was 16) last year…. 18 years to the day that he came into my life I had to make the decision to set him free after doing the same with our dog (nasal cancer) just 5 months earlier and losing my dad unexpectedly 2 months prior. Herman had cancer (vaccine related sarcoma and in the end, stomach cancer) and was in renal failure. It is never easy, but rest assured you did the very best for your sweet boy and he knew nothing but love right to the end. I would say your kids wanting to have a memorial is very normal, they need a way of dealing with the loss too. My kids had a very difficult time since we had so many deaths so close together, we have a small butterfly garden in the yard now… they painted rocks in memory of our furbabies and their Papa. My daughter also asked for pictures in her room. I still miss our kitty so much, he was loud and demanding but such a sweet thing. He also loved to have his belly rubbed.

    • Aww Christina, I am so sorry. What a devastating time that must have been for you, your entire family. It has been a week, still so very hard. The decision really has been devastating but I am trying to cope as best I can. Hugs to you and thanks for sharing your story.

  2. I’m so sorry for the loss of ET. He was a beautiful kitty. I’m glad that he was surrounded by his family at the end of is life. I think a funeral for ET would be good for you and your family..

  3. I’m totally crying – I’m so beyond sorry for your loss, Nichol! We went through a similar situation with our dog (also our “first child”) a few years ago and I still can’t think back to the vet’s face when she had to tell me the news without getting totally choked up. Pets are such a big part of our lives and the way that they give love unconditionally makes it even more heartbreaking when we have to say goodbye. ET definitely knew that you loved him and he was so lucky to be with your awesome family!

    • Aww mama, thank you. It is so so hard. I didn’t think this would hurt me so much but it has. Choosing to say goodbye to him has been devastating, I’m trying to cope though. He had a fabulous life and was absolutely an amazing cat, friend and dear buddy.

  4. I am so sorry, Nichol. It was really rough on us when we lost our dog a year and a half ago too. Like you, our was our first baby and such a big part of our lives. A constant amongst all of the change that had happened over the years. If you ever want to talk, I’m here.

  5. I’m so sorry Nichol, I’m crying, I just don’t think I can say “Ok” to letting him go even though I know he’s suffering…how do you do that?? You have to be really strong. I’d tell my husband to do it and go cry for day. This is so sad, I’m so very, very sorry :(

    • Thank you Penelope. I’m far from strong I think. He was so uncomfortable. Basically, starving himself. Only taking bites here and there, just refused to eat the last few weeks of his life. The vet told us it would get bad (uncontrollable bowels, vomiting, etc). I couldn’t deal with him suffering. He was an amazing cat, that didn’t deserve to die that way which is what would have happened. I was crying so bad for 3 days because we had to choose to end his life, but I now have peace knowing he didn’t suffer and we gave him an amazing life. I miss him like crazy.

  6. So sorry for your loss, Nichol. I’ve had to have two cats put to sleep both of which I raised from kittens. Coconut came to live with us when I was in Kindergarten and died the day before I left for college. She could no longer walk, drink, or eliminate and was absolutely pitiful. My mom took her in for the procedure while I wept on the bathroom floor. She was my first cat.
    We rescued Apricot from our church parking lot on a rainy day when I was about 10. He went with me to college and lived with us after Hubs and I got married. My mom, dad, Hubs, and me all went to the emergency vet the night we had to let him go. We buried him in my parents back yard and set up a little memorial for him with a rock with his name on it and my dad planted marigolds the color of his fur.
    Sorry that was so long. Just wanted you to know that I know how you feel! Email me or call if you need to. Hugs and prayers. <3

  7. I’m so sorry, Nichol. Pets are special and become a part of the family. I hope in time your heart will heal.


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