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A few weeks ago I was chatting with Gavyn (age 11) about how we don’t spend as much time together anymore. He’s always outside playing with friends, has friends stay here or stays with friends and just doing typical 11 year old boy things. I told him that I wanted to devote a day to just us; having a mother and son date night once a month. He didn’t seem too thrilled about the idea (hanging out with mom must be the worst thing ever) but I told him he could choose what to do.
The problem is I have a daughter that is seven, attached to my hip still. Everything she does involves mommy, whether that’s coloring, reading, watching movies, walking the puppy, helping me cook…EVERYTHING. I miss being around my first born and want to be able to bond with him again. I want him to know that even though I’m the annoying mom that sets rules, curfew, and time limits on video games etc…etc…I am here for him and well I’m cool.
Consider a date night with your son, to get back that time you once had – don’t forget the camera. You can also check places such as Living Social and Groupon to score deals on local events. Here are some inexpensive but fun date night ideas.
Miniature Golf: This fun activity will have you both smiling and spending quality time together. Putt-putt can be enjoyed by younger children as well and a challenge to try to get a hole-in-one. Don’t forget the ice cream after the game to celebrate!
Laser Tag: My son loves everything that has to do with Nerf so laser tag is one date night outing he suggested. You will have to work together as a team to shoot at opponents so you can score the most points. Get in your dark clothes, gear up, take cover and have fun!
Dinner & a Movie: Of course you knew this was coming, but how pleasurable to sit with just your son at his favorite restaurant enjoying each other’s company. Chow down on a dessert together as well. Once dinner is done, head to the theater to watch a movie of their choice.
Local Attraction: My city, your city, all cities have so many places of interest. Get on the computer and look them up. Have your son choose which place he’d like to visit that you haven’ been to yet. This could be a museum, sports center, fire station, lake, local state park (pack a picnic lunch), roller or ice skating, the zoo, hiking trail and so much more.
Go Fishing: There is nothing quite like the face of ANY child catching their first fish. Make the day all about them and watch them. Help when they need it but let them cast out the rod and reel it in. Check with your local agency for fishing licensing laws. Everyone 16 an older needs one in the state of NY but one day licenses can be purchased for a very small fee. Make sure your child has a fishing rod that is suited for them.
Race It Up: We have a very small park in our area that has go-karts so we hit those up often. The place is family-friendly, offers areas to picnic and many other small amusement park rides. Go-karts are enjoyable for children because well they can drive – fast – and that is super exciting.
Sporting Event: Show your team spirit by watching the local middle or high school play their opponents. Gavyn is in 6th grade so school sports do not start until next year. I like bringing him to see what the games are all about, cheering my loudest. Watching my middle/high school team play was one of my favorite things to do and I hope my children enjoy it just as much.
Pizza & Bowling: Bowling is an activity everyone enjoys. Order a pizza from the bowling alley and let the fun begin. Check with your local centers for twilight bowling nights, they rock. Also, don’t forget Kids Bowl Free all summer long!
Other Ideas: Many younger children can do most of the above ideas, but if you have toddler/preschool age children, consider building something with them, visiting the fire station, visiting Build-a-Bear Workshop, bake cookies, go for a nature walk or just a fun day at the park.
Have you ever had a date night with your son?